Under the circumstances, his mother Anne-Marie offered to act as a surrogate mother and hosting embryos from gametes son and ova from a donor, she takes a pregnancy to term. It happened in August 2014 in England, where a 46 year old woman became a mother and grandmother of Mils, the son of his son Kyle. The English High Court then accepted the request for adoption by Kyle and the child is now legally his son and his brother.
Criticism came Kyle then answered: "I have a son and now I am happy. If you are able to provide support and love, I do not see why someone should be denied the right to be a parent. For this child I paid, not taxpayers' money. " And on why he chose his mother for subrogation, he says: "The advantage of a surrogate mother that you know and you trust is that there are fewer risks associated with the adoption. If you are using a surrogate alien may also decide to keep the baby, since legally it is the mother. "
This is precisely what happened to Gordon and Manuel.
After giving birth to a child, the Thai Patidta Kusolsang, surrogate mother, aware of the fact that the couple customer - Gordon Lake and Manuel Santos, respectively American and Spanish - is actually a gay couple, refuses to sign the necessary documents for the passport of the child. In Thailand, a woman who gives birth to a child retains all legal rights to the child who can not leave the country without his approval. Even the US Embassy has taken steps to resolve the situation, without success, because "under US law, the Department can not issue passports to children without the consent of the parent or legal guardian".
Today, Gordon and Manuel, for fear that the small Carmen is taken away, living with her and the other two year old son, Alvaro - he had with surrogacy in India - in a secret location in Thailand waiting that the intricate issue will be resolved. The couple last year had turned to an agency, the New Life Thaildan, and the two had first chosen the egg donor, then approved the surrogate mother, Patidta Kusolsang, a woman from a middle class family with a daughter and a job stable. Patidta therefore, is a mother to gestational surrogacy, which means that the eggs used in fertilization does not belong to her.
In late July, just as Patidta is pursuing pregnancy, due to a series of scandals Thailand outlaws surrogacy for profit, prohibiting even the subrogation to foreign couples. Patidta now denies that his rethinking is because of sexual orientation of the two men and that concerns rather a feeling of attachment to the child, and also said that he would have returned to the couple the monetary compensation received in exchange for subrogation. Gordon and Manuel, for their part, have repeatedly stated that they will not leave Thailand without Carmen. "It is our daughter (Gordon Lake is its biological father) and belongs to us. We trust that the surrogate mother will be convinced that we are good parents and will sign the papers to go home with Carmen. " Meanwhile, on Change.org launched a petition and Facebook page open Bringcarmehome.
Those opposed to the subrogation see this opportunity as an exploitation of the female body, only victim. However, even the couple customer can be exploited and humiliated by the economic point of view and emotional when the mother changes her mind and takes the child. The questions that arise are many such stories. Biotechnology and science progresses every day and determine the emergence of new rights: how to regulate these new demands? And where and when you should stop the law? From the ethical point of view, that there are objections to surrogacy if it's a free choice? Because it goes well a child left to nurse for most of her childhood and not good hosted a fetus for nine months in the womb of a mother to gestational surrogacy? How far can you push the desire for parenthood?